Sobriety
Posted on Nov 04, 2025 by Pastor Jealaine Marple
So many weeks, one of us reflects on the readings, the season of the church year, or the ongoings of the church. This week, I want to share something about me that I’ve shared with some of you but want all of you that read to know: I’m an alcoholic. I am not ashamed of this status in my life. It is part of my story but it doesn’t define me.
Almost 6 years ago, I was preparing to have weight loss surgery and my doctor said part of the pre-surgery requirements included quitting drinking. Up until then, I was what might be called a gray area drinker (for more information, check out this page: https://www.hanleycenter.org/what-is-gray-area-drinking/). I didn’t drink every day or night. But when I did, I went pretty hard.
I never had a “rock bottom” that included some stories you might have heard from others. I was never unfaithful. I never woke up in jail. I never had any troubles with the law (other than a speeding ticket that had nothing to do with drinking). But what I realized is that I used alcohol too much to cope.
If I had a good day, I’d have a drink. If I had a bad day, I’d have a drink. If I was stressed, I’d drink. And I often drank in excess. So when I was required to quit, I struggled. It was then that I realized I may have a troublesome relationship with alcohol. This didn’t surprise me one bit, as I have more than one fellow addict in my family.
So, with the help of a therapist, I quit drinking. It was hard. I was forced to face my feelings and deal with stress in healthier ways. I attended a few AA meetings but didn’t feel comfortable. You will see that I take juice at communion. I am more than comfortable around alcohol. We keep it at our house because Chris can have just one drink and be done (don’t ask me how). I am happy to come to your gatherings where alcohol is present — it doesn’t bother me at all.
Getting sober was one of the best gifts I’ve ever given to myself. I am grateful every single day to be sober. I don’t judge those who drink. I mainly share with you so you learn something new about me and an invitation — If you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol, I am always willing to help. As of my writing this, I am 2,439 days sober. It literally has been one day at a time. To God be the glory!
In Christ,
Pastor J